I have been married for the past 2.5 years now and have been wondering of late whether it is just me who is having all the trouble in the world managing my job & my well-designed & maintained home. Well, I know most women always crib & yet advise that its a man's world out there and we women are the ones who have been given the golden opportunity to 'adjust' to situations. I am a software engineer by profession and just like any other techie, i get to spend a minimum of 10 hours 'for' my profession.
Mornings are like a mad rush as if to catch some last train to earth from Mars. You get to prepare the breakfast, keep a prying eye on the maid servant, clean the house almost simultaneously, plan for lunch & if lucky dinner also. Whoever said that women have just 2 hands....are perhaps kidding.The office space is not much heartening either. Work keeps coming and apart from that u have unrealistic deadlines and people who never seem to attribute the fact that a working women is as busy as her male counterpart. So when the world seems to appreciate a man coming late or a man working extra to bring himself some extra bucks or a promotion, why is it that a working wife is always shunned for spending an extra hour at work or coming an hour late to office? why is she labelled as a 'career woman' if she gives preference to work for some period in her life? Does that mean all men are "career men'"?
And then after a tiring day at work (as tiring for women as it is for men), you've got to rush back home just in time to cook rice and something "tasty" for dinner....if u are capable it is just another quality that a working wife has and if the wife doesnt know cooking, the wife is considered good for nothing.(I think its a very good quality coz atleast then the husband gets to know what it means to work and cook DAILY).
And if you thought this is all in the day.....the night has just begun dear :-) ! Now, I am not trying to blah-blah about the routine life of a working woman at home nor am i trying to prove that all men are bad or this world is unrealistic. Its a fact after all and I guess God once again (I think God is also a man) gave us women the power to suffer, cry , forget and start life fresh once again from the next morning as it was a day before.Some argue that women are born to bear - whether it is the brunt of someone's imperfect ways, caustic tongues of family, husband's demands or kids!!!! Like as if someone asked God while creating human beings "You have given us all good. Now what if we have to face something unpleasant in life.? " And then God said " Here's my invention son - The woman. She bears it all for her man". .
This might seem too sarcastic or philosophical but thats how it is.....hard to digest. All said and done, this is just a blog and am just penning my thoughts out here. There might be many of u who might just about agree with me or some who feel that i m thinking crap. Atleast we have got a brain of our own and can fortunately reason out our lives why the world is like this? People want a "working girl" as their wife. Why ? Is it just for monetary support or do they also feel that the wife/bahu has her own life and dreams like themselves ?
-Aparna10/7/2007
1 comment:
You are from present generation and you do not know what would be from working women of last generation. A man wants her wife to be beatiful, working, dynamic, taking care of children, good house keeping and finally getting "A" from his parents and etc.....If a lady study and starts working, she will be totally different in her thinking and it is very hard to explain to a man who thinks that his wife is different just b'cos she is working. The best thing to do in life is sit at home and depend on husband for everything including to get provisions fron a shop next to the house. Such wifes get very good name than people who do everything b'cos after doing everything if we don't get recognition we loose temper and even that is also added as a bad point.
It is only my personal feelings and it is not generalised.
bhagya
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